Rule 1 Be nice and expect nothing in return. Be the eternal optimist.

Rule 2 Have no expectations because it will literally kill your self-esteem.

Rule 3 Be a seeker and you will find truth and beauty, suffering and malevolence in your path.

Rule 4 Read and write intelligently and speak fluently.

Rule 5 Why would you want to settle down and find an exit to paradise?

Rule 6 Do not offer your criticism to the elderly. No good will come of it.

Rule 7 Everyone is in pain. Even the richest man in the world and even the eternal comic.

Rule 8 Find meaningful things in your life whenever you are bored and depressed.

Rule 9 You are alive. Get to work to live your life for the good of society.

Rule 10 Do not tolerate arrogance or negativity in anyone.

Rule 11 Build a library in your home. It will keep you company and sane.

Rule 12 Wars never end. There is only healing, healing and eternal revolution from within.

You are master of your life. This life is so many things. Upheaval and chaos, war, identity politics, pride, gay pride, pride and prejudice and the question then evolves. The question then becomes how to fight against feelings of panic, anxiety, fear on a daily basis? How can I achieve self-love, personal freedom, success, and how can I develop my skills and expertise in my chosen field and surpass and compete healthily with my colleagues, peers, rivals or enemies and not stress about the administrative glass ceiling, the bureaucratic mess of the day? How can I set the pace, set an example for newcomers, be a mentor, understand that if I want to live my truth and be the best version of myself, I can’t justify the clouds of negativity in my energy field.

I need to bring myself to operate at a frequency where I am empathetic to the needs of others and reach out to others with kindness and humanity. The souls of broken people are shattered and it is extremely difficult for them to put the pieces back together. I have been in continuous therapy (on and off) for decades and have come to realize this.

Change happens exponentially in all facets of your life once you make the strategic decision that you want personal growth, want to achieve the goals you have been journaling about, want to be happy, and look for self-esteem and not a romantic. entanglement that will wear out your soul. That’s a death. Losing someone while they are still very much alive. They tell you in so many ways that you’re not the person they want anymore, that they’re not in love with you anymore, and then they cut themselves off from your life and it’s like you ripping off a bandage and they walk away a way. When people can’t love you, or they don’t love you completely, understand that the relationship was a season that is now over and yes it’s over and they won’t come back to you, but no self hate won’t bring your ex back (you might even get married). You are not a fixer, you are a being in charge of your own life. Two broken people don’t commit to each other and then walk down the aisle. The mysteries of love language are in a book but it takes a divine encounter to bring two people together. After all, it’s the rest of your life. In the days to come, it will hurt. The hurt will come in waves, in vibrations until finally there is a surrender, healing and healing can take place.

You must, for your sanity and understanding, realize that what this person brought to the table when they made you happy or comforted you when you felt troubled, emotional, hurt, unhappy, unwell comfortable, or when you felt hurt by a remark someone made, when they made you laugh it was sincere, and that your relationship even though now it’s over there were elements of his personality that kept you up at night but when it comes to relationship dimensions leave them intact that’s what I say. Every relationship that ends brings with it insecurity about securing another partner for the future. If you are used to being independent, alone and happy to live without looking for another soul mate, let the universe know that clearly.

Take care of yourself, stay mindful, take care of yourself, immerse yourself in activities that make you happy and bring out the best in you. Life begins again. Everyone is suffering. We are beings who experience elation, manic highs and crushing lows. Our euphoria makes us the consummate animal. We are all consumers and marketers and we decide daily what we announce to the world about ourselves. We have all had an incident of negative childhood experience and we have all experienced the existence of a fractured identity at times, a psyche that fragments when your self-esteem and body image are emotionally damaged.

As a writer, I am tasked with writing down all the experience I have had in my life in ways that help others make powerful changes in their lives for good and help others see their trauma. and I want to help them stay sane and efficient in their daily lives and emotionally stable, which is a testament to the stability responsible for overall mental well-being. Have we lost the ability to take care of ourselves in this era of covid? The pandemic has made us realize how vulnerable we are. Our mental health was affected, depression increased, suicide risk increased and our loneliness, isolation and futility reached us in confinement where we coped as best we could with the dire situation.

Poverty of spirit is more debilitating than acute physical hunger. Psychology textbooks say that to be the best of ourselves, to live our best life, we need others, we have to relate to them on a daily basis. In war, that’s all you do. Your neighbor’s life becomes your life and that is how we cling to humanity. This is how we survive by psychologically putting our mind at ease with rigorous markers that comfort us and soothe our mind. You see a flower and it transports you to a memory that focuses you deeply for a few minutes, for example. Then, within minutes, you forget about the grain deal or the fact that there are cities in ruins and winter is coming and the world has forgotten about the Ukrainian people. Most of them now have to rebuild their lives with their children in another country.

Mothers, children, the disabled, the elderly, the mentally ill and the lonely. What happens to the schizophrenic, the manic-depressive, the anorexic who hustles and purges himself, the person who has a mood disorder, the person who has to take daily medication to save his life at war. Another example to consider when dealing with a negative external environment is this. To free yourself from feelings of anxiety, you close your eyes and think about taking a walk in a nearby park. It’s cold so you have to put on a jacket. You step out of your front door, yell, “I’ll be right back,” and start walking briskly. As if you had somewhere to go. Citizens who remained in Ukraine might have nowhere to go. It is a sad reality. They are homeless, but they are mostly broken people. Broken people don’t just exist in the war scenario, they are everywhere. Life can be problematic. You may be very afraid of the future. After the divorce, after the love affair is over, after your heart breaks under the onslaught of grief, you need consolation. You only have to read the headlines in the newspapers to find yourself looking at yourself on the page.

Sometimes I use tools like meditation and prayer to stabilize myself in this difficult world. I do this especially when I don’t feel strong enough to face the day, ready for conflict or when I have to face adversity. It can’t give you another childhood or parents who didn’t have mismatched personalities. Fathers make mistakes. Mothers make mistakes.

I sit down and close my eyes. In a few seconds I am in nature. There are trees and birdsong emerging from the shadows of day. It stirs my soul and so I experience an inexplicable joy for which I have all the inexplicable reasons. I am completely alone. This is how you heal and recover. You pay close attention to what your body is telling you and whatever it says is wrong, you have it checked out by a doctor. If you need a second, third or fourth opinion, get it.